YOU CAN ONLY CONTROL YOURSELF
Humans. . yes we humans , we can only control ourselves but we are fantastic at picking a wide range of excuses to limit our possibilities.. and this include in many areas of lives.. say for example ..going gym to studying for an exam. Yup! We all do this and excuses are often the primarily reasons behind why we are unable to accomplish what we want out of our lives ? Coz of this, one of the best habit we can build is to proactively make a commitment to stop making excuses; start taking steps that are necessary to get what we want out of our lives ?
WHY WE MAKE EXCUSES ?
DO WE MAKE EXCUSES JUST TO GET OUT OF DOING ANYTHING ?
Sometimes, this is true. . But there are many motives behind such excuses .. come let us find reasons behind such excuses :
Our biggest reason of making excuses is . . FEAR !
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Fear of failure … Fear of responsibilities.. Fear of comparison.. let me tell you more about our fears. Fear is the thing which keep us inside of our comfort zone and stop us from venturing out into unknown. Many of us are often afraid of things coz they don’t understand them or may be they lack all the information they need. Fear of failure exist within us.. and it continously stop us doing good. It is very important to remember that we don’t lose everything when we fail. Failure just means things are not going the way we expected them to go. Without any experience and perspective, we often make assumptions or jump to conclusions about possible outcomes that could negatively impact us.
If we don’t have any specific and measurable goals, it is very easy to make excuses to avoid doing something that we don’t want to do. Having specific goals in mind.. we are less likely to come up with an excuses everyday. We make excuses because we are scared to make mistakes. Mistake might seem like the end of world to us .. . But mistakes are actually valuable!P AU SE .. think about the mistakes you made in life .. they have actually added strength to your character. It is important to see mistakes as being beneficial and critical part of our lives and embrace them. Another fear is fear of comparison. . We all make excuses so we won’t be compared to other people coz we are not even giving ourselves a chance to succeed. Who knows.. compared with someone else, we may be the best !
It’s very common we want to protect ourselves from harm in any way. It may me physical.. emotional…or mental. We always on the lookout for just a little bit to keep ourselves safe. . Excuses hold us back and leave us thinking we are not good enough, capable enough to perform. All these negative thoughs get us no where. It get us paralyzed in our fears. We compare ourselves with other without knowing about their lifestyle.. comparing our life with others is not useful coz we are not aware with others situations.
Just compare your current version with your previous version of life.
…and start improvement. We never think about in this way coz we are not ready for the responsibilities.. yes our fear of responsibilities…another reason behind excuses. We are not ready to go out and explore ourselves, not ready to grow! As per many research… It has been found that we make excuses to protect our fragile egos from failures…
“WHEN YOU HAVE BIG GOALS AND YOU MAKE EXCUSES TO AVOID ALL THE SMALL HABITS AND TASKS NEEDED TO ACHIEVE SAID GOALS, THEN MY FRIEND .. YOU ARE REALLY … REALLY SCREWING UP YOU LIFE .” Just continue to be comfortable with yourself, most of all .. try and remember….“if you don’t risk anything, you risk more.”
So dream big, focus small and stop making excuses!
- Try to specifically define what you want to achieve ASAP. The less clear you are about what you want to do, the less effective your plan will be .Be more sure about your task and ideas. Always keep in mind that your plan may change as you work towards your goal.. so be flexible it will help you a lot.
- Physically writing things down will make you more likely to do them . . And I agree.. I use to write down my tasks and my ideas in my diary and plan my week days in my planner in possible manner. By doing this .. keeping planner helps you overcome stress and feel calmer coz it makes less likely that you will consider on what you needs to be done.
- Last but not the least readers… Execution! Execution is very simple concept to talk about. But it’s hard one to apply. Once, we know about what it is we want .. how we are going to get it and what we need to do. Then we can move to the final step which is execution.Forget about everything apart from this plan and the end goal you desire.
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I believe one of the best ways to ensure we achieve success is to follow our
heart and have faith within ourselves.
YOU. CAN .DO .BETTER.
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