You can’t love people who irritate you, you can only pretend to love them. Instead of pretending, just see that they irritate you and look at why they irritate you. They irritate you simply because they are not the way you expect them to be. They are not the way you want them to be. This irritation is happening because you’ve already decided what’s wrong and what’s right. If they behave in different way, it will irritate you first , then you’ll get angry and then you’ll hate them.
It happens because you expect everyone in the world to be like you. Which is not possible. If everyone in the world was like you, could you be here?
It’s very good that everyone in the world is the way they are. Out of this whole mass of people, if you look at any human being, that person is absolutely unique! There is no other human being like him anywhere on this planet. There never was one and there never will be another such person. This is an absolutely unique human being. If you recognise that he is precious to you, how can he irritate you?. There is no other human being like them. And if you see this, where is the question of irritation?
Only if you are simply blind to life , you’ll get irritated. If you open your eyes and look at life, how can anyone irritate you?
The only way you will become an outpouring of love is by seeing the uniqueness of everything in creation. Well, We all want our relationships to run smoothly, and most couples would agree that it’s not great to drive each other nuts.There’s no doubt that the ability to manage conflict even low-level conflict is an essential relationship skill. But I’d say that there are times when it’s fine even good for partners to annoy each other. Expressing one’s authentic self and odds to someone is a healthy sign of comfort in a relationship. (For some it’s a good sign. What you think readers, share your views in the comment section down below , will surely reply! )
Often, people fear that expressing anger will lead to a fight.However, if you stay calm and focus on the real issues, telling your partner the things that irritate you can improve your relationship. An important thing to remember when communicating your irritation is that the problem needs to be solved. You are not just lashing out in anger, you are trying to create better harmony in your relationship. Therefore, it’s good to suggest an acceptable, specific resolution to the problem. I know it’s going to be very short and long term solutions to a healthy relationship;but it might be helpful. Before you get to any conclusions regarding your irritation or annoyance from your partner, the very first step is to identify what kind of problem it is, it might be a low level conflict and your anger and ignorance can make that problem a bigger and unforgettable unforgivable fight. Everyone gets irritated annoyed for their own specific reasons and those are valid as well. And this might make them unable to feel happier or feel laughter, positive vibes. May be they need their own space and time.
Read: Anger – not a good emotion
The worst distance between two people is ” misunderstanding”.
Better to avoid misunderstanding.
Blaming your partner for your discomfort or irritation is unfair and leads to unnecessary suffering for you both, so never do that. Listen to each other and acknowledge each other’s opinion. Remember, we all are different, in our opinion, in our likes dislikes, different thoughts, and many more characters. So don’t expect them to be like you or the way you want. Embrace the way they are they way you are. If you want that unique character in your life , make efforts together and if don’t then don’t ruin the best memories you had together.
Have better understanding of being different.
Be an encourager not a criticizer
See you soon ! Till then be better. Listen, understand, you always gain by giving love.
You can do better!
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