Human domestication-Social Norms- SHIVANA BLOG

What is human domestication means? We are born, we learn, we speak. The people who take care of us teach us what they know. They feed us on the basis of their knowledge. They program us with their point of view. Those humans have lots of knowledge, that includes social, moral rules and religious cultural activities as well. They pass on the information to us to be like them. We learn how men and women behave in the society on the basis of their knowledge and in the society we are born. We learn how to behave in the right way in our society, that means how to be a good human. Are we a good human? In reality, we’re what we’ve been taught.

We’ve been taught to be good people.
They never taught us about humanity!

Being good or bad human

In reality we all are domesticated in the same manner that any animal is domesticated. We are told that we’re good or bad when we do what the grown-ups want us to do or we don’t do what they want us to do. Sometimes we’re punished without being bad and sometimes we’re rewarded without being good. Strange No? This punishment and being rewarded makes us to please other people. We try to be good because bad people don’t get rewarded, they are punished. In such a kind of human domestication, we’re imposed by certain rules and values of our family and society. We don’t have the opportunity to choose.

We’re told what to believe and what not to. The people we live with tell us their views. What’s wrong or right and what’s bad or good. We believe what our parents told us to do, get agree to all the information given by them, act and react as per the agreement.

We don’t pay attention to anything. Attention is very important for us ( the human) because it’s the part of our brain which makes it possible for us to focus and shows possibilities to our thoughts. Our imagination began to develop on the basis of our thoughts and then we began to question. We ask and ask and keep asking questions because we gather information from everywhere. And we know finally we’ve mastered something which is called language.

learning and thought process

This is how we learn how to think and then our thought process begins. We notice what is beautiful and what’s ugly on the basis of the belief and values programmed within us. They tell us the way we should be, the way we look, we behave. We need to be this way, not that way and because it’s not okay for us to be what we’re, we start pretending to be what we are not.

Read- STOP Pretending !

By the time we get into schools, colleges and after that work places we explore many languages and symbols along with new rules and values of other people. Now since we are aware at this stage of our lives what to believe and what not to instead of what they want us to do, conflict takes place. It’s completely different from what our parents tell us but we agree with them too.

Theory of perfection

At a certain point of time, all the opinions of parents and teachers, society makes us believe that we need to be a certain way in order to be accepted. The fear of being rejected becomes the fear of not being good enough and we start searching for something we are not and that’s what we call PERFECTION. Also we start judging ourselves because we know what we’re. This is when the drama begins, people get against our values and what we believe. Since we started exploring seeking pleasure and now we’re known to the term call peace we run around the term self judgement. We should not be ashamed of the past and what we believe.

We try to be good enough for everybody else but we’re no longer good enough to ourselves.

All of our normal human tendencies are lost in the process of human domestication and then we begin to search for what we’ve lost. We start searching for freedom, happiness and beauty and much more. It’s a different and difficult time for most of us. Now by this time we don’t allow others to domesticate us anymore. We learned to judge ourselves. sometimes we punish and sometimes reward ourselves according to the same belief we were given. Some start the same on the belief they’ve learned of their own.

End of human domestication

Finally we mature and everything changes again. We start searching for everything which is not within us because we believe what we’ve been taught. We seek happiness outside of us, we believe that love is somewhere outside of us, we only believe in the knowledge we’ve stored in the brain. In the end we again look for perfection because now we agree with other people that nobody’s perfect. Above all, at this point of time there might be a possibility of being supported and loved if your thought process matches with them or they changed their opinions. You might be hated and get abandoned due to disagreement with your parents, brother or sister and society. To be continued . . . .

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