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STOP Pretending !

Shivani Gupta
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STOP Pretending !

Welcome to Shivana blog, In this blog I’m going to share some of my opinions regarding our pretentious behaviour. STOP Pretending. It is not that you and me only pretend , all the people around us do the same, but the question is why to do it? Some do it of their own free will and some do it in their sight (By seeing somebody or something). They do what they see. But everyone does. Because it doesn’t work without pretending in our society. To make others comfortable we often pretend what others wanna see.

Stop pretending to be-

  • fine, when things are bothering you
  • positive, when you’re struggling with messy thoughts
  • right, when you’re absolutely wrong
  • wrong, when you’re absolutely right
  • successful, by showing fake results
  • happy when you’re not. 

So, if you’re doing the same as stated above, then stop doing this right now ! Pretending is permanent, it’s a full time job. It takes a lot of time and energy to pretend, when nothing exists. It play with mind in long run and it cannot be carried out so long. We all gonna meet people who will know who we are; Who might appreciate us for what we are and also for what we want to be. So, resign this full-time job, Do something for your inner soul, it will save your lot of energy. Pretending to be really like someone who you are not, will lead you to loose who you really are; the person you are.

We live in a society full of people pretending to be something they’re not . .

What happens when you pretend?

Say for example, When you pretend to live happy

Initially it won’t effect but in long run it’s gonna worsen your own mental health. When you pretend to be happy in your relationship in your marriage but in real you are not. In the same  manner if you pretend to be like someone else may be the person of your choice like we might wish to be like someone else so say if you pretend to be like that, you won’t be able to pretend like  somebody else in long run; – I’ve said before we all are unique in our own way so why to pretend?

Coping with the stuff life throws on us is tough. . From the outside, people seems to be holding something they don’t want just like you and me. You are not alone my friend! But  if you pretend that you’re ok, you’re doing good! It will effect later and might be you won’t be able to handle those outcomes. 

So,

  • Take some time out, Don’t underestimate the importance of taking time to relax. Sometimes we get so caught up in our lives and what’s going on around us that we become overwhelmed and tense. Taking time out for selves might help or heal, to unwind and keep some distance from the things that are stressing you out. 
  • Find some inspiration, keeps you driven and optimistic. There are so many ways by which one can get inspired. 
  • Stop taking part in gossips and drama, worst part is people enjoy doing it, don’t get excited hearing juicy rumours about people around you, it will lower your vibration. 

“Simplify your circle or group of friends. Keep those who add value to your life;

Remove who don’t. Less is always more when your less means more. “

Clean-up your life.

Because definition of social networking platforms has changed. They’re no longer people you know well. Virtual friendship have affected the way society labels. We now call anyone a friend – even a person we met once on a night out. 

Concluding . .

So I think the above stated points are some of the reasons that why people pretend directly or indirectly into some of their daily life situations. leave a comment what you guys think about this. Thank you for stopping by! YOU CAN DO BETTER ! STOP Pretending.

DISCLAIMER:

This is my personal blog, the views and opinions expressed here represent my own and not those of people or organization that I may or may not be related with unless stated explicitly. The content is copyrighted solely to the caretaker of this website. Do not copy. Also thoughts and opinions change from time to time as I come to learn more and develop my understanding about the things and issues that I am blogging about. This blog just provides a snapshot of the knowledge, views, and opinions that I hold at a particular point of time and these might most probably change over a period of time.

Managing Mindset

Shivani Gupta
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Managing Mindset

Welcome to Shivana Blog,

Everything in life starts with our mindset first, and then our actions play the role. I’ve said this many times in my blogs, Have you read previous one? If yes, then Thanks a million and if not, then please go and check that out soon. So, in this blog I’m gonna share some of my updated thoughts on my older blog related to How to letting go of your past. Along with that would like to share something more on how to improve your mistakes. Especially when our problems are beyond our control.

I am now 28 years old when I started writing blogs. Did not know at that time what to do when something happens to you. Such a mistake that you can never improve. You can never ever correct. It is not that there was no way to rectify the mistake. I could do it but maybe it was late I guess! Anyway, something in our life can never be undone, right? My answer is yes! Sometimes we think we wish this day or this time had not come in our life, surely there are some possible ways to fix the problem. But instead of fixing or should I say while fixing that problem there are possibilities of more trouble in life.

For me, it’s equally important to think about how good you are

and how good you want to be . . .

Add good things

Sometimes we can’t undo the things that may have gone wrong in our life. Our wrong choices, wrong decisions, wrong investments and wrong words, that may have spoken that we don’t want to. I’m not saying that you do not try, you try, but in the right direction. In proper manner which is best for you. Best for your life. We should definitely give our best. But after having done what we can, when we cannot reverse the things, to still keep trying is like attempting to remove or separate sand from a glass of water! I hope you guys understood what I’m trying to convey!! I think it’s just a waste of time instead of adding some good things, taking some good decisions, making fruitful investments and speaking good words , thinking of blunders you’ve done.

Have a confident Mindset

When you’ve done something wrong and when you feel helpless about it,Simply add some more positivity, some more good things to your life instead of thinking about the problem. We often feel how to let go our past, It takes time only if you want to let it go. We humans have different ability to understand, but it is not possible to understand at all. Our understanding is far above our thinking, we have the ability to understand more than we think. We just have to learn to trust our thinking, our intuition. People often lack that confidence and building that self confidence takes time my friend! Confidence and Arrogance

Life is lived forward

But is always judged in reverse

River never flows reverse. So try to live like a river, forget your past and focus on your future. Living in present makes your experiences better.

Past Mindset

Everyone has their own past, sometimes it has been good, sometimes something bad. Now whether to remember the bad or not, we all have different opinions. Some says take a lesson from your bad and forget what happened. Some says that always remember the bad lesson so that you don’t repeat the same mistake further.

What’s your opinion ?

I think for me it’s better to learn and forget about what happened, remembering that will never let you go of your past bad experience. Try adding something good something interesting which makes you feel happy about what you have, what you have done till now. Ok sometimes it feels bad it doesn’t matter, for me -life is also about some good and bad experiences, learn from bad one and cherish the good one. It takes a whole life to understand life, readers! Reading few articles or listening some motivational speeches will help you to cope up with your tough time, There is more need to live, less to understand. The joy is in living. Improve your mindset today.

You can do better!

Also read- Declutter your MIND/ Feeling of NOT DOING ENOUGH

DISCLAIMER: This is my personal blog, the views and opinions expressed here represent my own and not those of people or organization that I may or may not be related with unless stated explicitly. The content is copyrighted solely to the caretaker of this website. Do not copy.

Human – Heart connection

Shivani Gupta
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Human – Heart connection

The connections

Have you heard about Human – Heart connection? How many of you’ve that connection? Take a moment and read this till the end (2 mins read)!!

In a society of hashtags, followers and insights, . ..where everyone is over exposed and busy doing so. . know the true importance of human connection, a true heart connection! Now-a-days it’s effortless to get connect on social media, catching up, believing that this is the medium of comfort and we don’t even know when it becomes Distraction. 

“People who wade into discomfort and vulnerability and tell the truth about their stories are the real badasses” – brené brown! 

Be SUPPORTIVE and UNDERSTANDING

I’ve seen so many social media accounts, and I don’t know why they exists? Well this is my opinion, and I’ve nothing to do with that.. not everyone thinks the same. It takes great courage to be vulnerable and  share a raw truth. These truth when exposed, leaves a deeper impacts, it can lift you up, it can set you free, it can be anything! In today’s world- Everything is precious. Surrounding yourself with positive, supportive and understanding people is very important, also it’s difficult to have.. but one can try and figure that out. It depends on us that we can choose our routines, activities all of our own, but choose that wisely, make sure that those conversations you’ve Elevate you to your highest good. 

Let your heart radiate your truth . . Choose

Your conversations

places

partners wisely. . They become you! ! 

There’s something a misconception about- that few thinks Attention is love, that makes them suffer a lot, 

Attention and LOVE

It’s not our fault darling! This is from our childhood… deep emotional conditioning given by our caretakers! We always seek attention from our loved ones.. our mind always seek attention as proof that we’re loveable. Even negative attention makes us feel like this is love. This can open doors for people to abuse or take advantage and we become habitual to highs and lows. Learn to discern between attention and love. Attention is suffocating and confusing… it comes hard and fast and it makes you possessive about. On the other hand love is unraveling and acceptance of who you really are and allowing you to become. 

We all are worthy of love… stay loved. 

Self love is the Highest frequency that attracts everything you wants . .

The Distractions . .

Social media and it’s inhuman content is all about the distraction, not completely I would say… but somewhat somewhere it is. Somewhere the connection between human and heart is missing. Don’t you think it is? Tell me naa what you think on this! Leave a comment. We are human, we are here for personal love to love others but not unconditionally. We’re not master in love, we find messy love, universal love, crazy love or broken love. But we find love, right? We didn’t come here to be perfect.

Remember

You are here to be gorgeous, to be human, know your human within you.. Stop telling that badass story that doesn’t exist on social media.. stay present and feel fully, share what you are.. it doesn’t require the perfection. Feel free and  shine and fly and laugh and cry and hurt and heal and fall and get-up and play and work and love and live and die as you. It’s enough to be you! Feel your existence, your connection with your heart- human heart !Communicate effectively

Thank you readers for stopping by!

You can do better! 

DISCLAIMER: This is my personal blog, the views and opinions expressed here represent my own and not those of people or organization that I may or may not be related with unless stated explicitly. The content is copyrighted solely to the caretaker of this website. Do not copy. Also thoughts and opinions change from time to time as I come to learn more and develop my understanding about the things and issues that I am blogging about. This blog just provides a snapshot of the knowledge, views, and opinions that I hold at a particular point of time and these might most probably change over a period of time. I reserve the right to evolve my knowledge, thoughts, and viewpoints over time and to change them without assigning any reason. Comments are welcome. However, note that, tasteless and insulting comments may be deleted. Any personal remarks and attacks may be deleted. The same holds true for off-topic comments. Any comments that reek of link spam or marketing messages WILL be deleted.I am not responsible for the content in comments other than those made by me, or in blogs or other online content that I may link to.

Clean-up your life

Shivani Gupta
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Clean-up your life

Take a moment, consider your circumstances, your situations! !

Start with small. 

How many of you have taken full advantage of any opportunities knocked on your door? Are you working very hard on your career or even on your job, any of you working on with bitterness and anything holding you back or dragging you down? 

How many of you have maintain peace with your loved ones or in a relationship? Do you treat your family members with dignity and respect? Have you changed your habits that are destroying your health or well being? 

Last but not the least-

Have you cleaned up your life? 

If your answer is no, here I’ve something for you to try. 

Start to stop doing what you know to be wrong — Start stopping today, Don’t waste your precious time questioning yourself all the time that how you know that whatever you’re doing is wrong, mistimed questions can confuse you, without enlightening as well as diverting you from actions. You can know that something is wrong or right without knowing why! Every person is too complex to know themselves entirely.. . And we all carry intelligence that we cannot understand. 

So, Simply stop! STOP Pretending !

  • When you capture, that you should stop. Sometimes, you should stop acting in a particular hateful manner. 
  • Stop saying the things which make you weak and sheepish. 
  • Say only those things that makes you strong.
  • Do only those that you could speak with Honor. 

Make your own standards

You can use your own standards of judgement. One can rely on themselves for guidance. There’s no need to stick on some external random code of behaviour. Have some sort of humanity, don’t blame an economic or political system. Let your own soul guide you, watch what happens on days and weeks. As you do, your experience will start to improve, you will then discover the new you. After some years of your hard work and efforts, your life become simpler and less complicated. Your judgement will improve, will untangle your past. . You will become more stronger and less complexed. You will move more confidently into the future. 

 Be More Powerful and Productive,

You will become an even more powerful force for peace and whatever is good. You will see your existence as a genuine good, something to celebrate. 

Cleaning your mind is not about sorting your things, it’s about knowing who you really are. .

It’s about knowing your worth, it’s a chance to redefine yourself. .

. . . also to remember it’s never too late to recognise who you were and what you want to be! !

Set your house in perfect order

Before you criticize the world. 

You can do better!

DISCLAIMER: This is my personal blog, the views and opinions expressed here represent my own and not those of people or organization that I may or may not be related with unless stated explicitly. The content is copyrighted solely to the caretaker of this website. Do not copy.

Communicate effectively

Shivani Gupta
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Communicate effectively

Effective communication

“Conveying a message to other people correctly might sound easy . . .. but it’s a process that is often fraught with error.” 

Many people struggle to communicate effectively – verbally not writing. This can leads to confusion, frustration, useless effort and mislead opportunities.

When people talk, ” listen completely.”

. . a good communication skills builds better career and personal success.

In my previous job I found that good communication is one of the top soft skills to master. Being a career counsellor and consultant, I found one should soft spoken in terms of conveying the message effectively. Communication will only be successful between the two if both individuals understand the key messages make across. Communication is one of the most important skills that we need to succeed in the workplace and also socially. Think of how often we communicate with people during the day.

We write emails, do meetings, make conference calls, Create reports, presentations, debates and what not! . . We can spend our entire day communicating. So, it stands to reason that communicating clearly and effectively can enhance productivity . We communicate through three kind of modes – In person, online and verbally. So I would like to share my experiences in these particular modes : 

In person –

If you’re not good at conveying what you feel. Then you should learn this technique asap. Face to face communication often leaves a greater impact as compared to online or written communication. When we do face to face communication, the person sitting in front observes your expression, your words and of course your body posture. Be polite in terms of your body also, the way you sit or stand, the way you walk tells very much about your personality. Make people comfortable around you, so that they can feel better and can listen to you clearly. It is important to create kind and healthy workplace where your ideas are really heard where Collaboration is smooth and seamless.

 Also when you talk in person make sure you look direct into the eyes of listener, this is my personal experience, listener listen to you more carefully than usual also you’ll feel confident of what you’re conveying.

Online –

Poor communicators often feel frustrated that they don’t get feedback in meetings, emails and planning. They present their ideas, explain their plan and wait for questions but get nothing. Being a good communicator requires the ability to sit and listen, in a way that invites the conversation. Be conscious about time for input, learn some new techniques of writing emails and project planning, carefully observe your colleagues how they convey their messages and presentation effectively, learning something new daily might help you overcome bad skills and help you to boost good communication skills. 

 Verbally –

One of among the required mode of conveying messages and proposals effectively, now this requires the words you choose, you need to be a  master in this area. Your words can help  what you want to achieve. Words can only make your deal better, Your words can get you what you are praying for. So choose your words wisely, by choosing words appropriately which describes your thoughts effectively. As compared to other mode of communication this particular one requires more attention and advanced skills. In general, words have much power, they can build a bond stronger, and if chosen stupidly . . We all know the outcome and sometimes worst.

When we communicate through person mode or online mode, both involves facial expressions and that’s the plus point which takes presentation one level up may be sometimes more than that. But one should be more careful while choosing words for conveying messages, correct use of words makes conversation effective and impressive at the same time. 

Below are some tips for effective communication and  how to choose appropriate words for communication: 

  • Keep word and phrase choice appropriate to the context. Do your research properly regarding the matter. 
  • A slighter precise word can still be the right word. 
  • It’s best to choose the word that communicates your point while evoking the tone of your docs
  • Do your research and stay true to your voice.
  • Know your audience.
  • Last but not the least, Be confident enough to speak about anything. 

So that’s all for the blog , will come up soon with another tips for betterment and for well being. Comment your thoughts below also any suggestions if you have!

Read –Achievements.

You can do better !

DISCLAIMER: This is my personal blog, the views and opinions expressed here represent my own and not those of people or organization that I may or may not be related with unless stated explicitly. The content is copyrighted solely to the caretaker of this website. Do not copy.

Celebrate your wins

Shivani Gupta
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Celebrate your wins

“Celebrate every win. No matter how small it is ” . . . celebrate wins

Small wins are progress points on your way to goals. Focusing on small wins help you break down the large goal into manageable chunks. In today’s blog I’m going to discuss about the importance and benefits of celebration of small victories, small achievements, your tiny success and their effects on our mental health. celebrate your wins.

So let’s begin with that. Do read till the end and leave a comment. (Reading those comments and reviews you guys give and the love you people show towards my work makes me happy and motivate to write more for you all). Here it is, 

How long you have working to change something in your life? Does it always knock you down? 

If yes, then remember you’re working on specific goal. No matter whether big or small it sometimes seems like problems keep popping up. It can make you feel discouraging and sometimes you think it is impossible to achieve your goal. During that particular time your brain can easily get shifted to negative thinking. . It will force you think about failure and negativities you may feel like everything is taunting and inconvenient for you. And you will start thinking like maybe you will never reach your goal.

If that is so, then you need to work on it. Negative thoughts and its process is pretty natural and is easily influence our brain even more than positive things. But the thing is you need to train your brain to see events differently. Yes, it is possible to do so! You need to work on good and positive thought. With being clear goals in mind, celebrating small wins is of great importance as it helps closer to achieve our goals. celebrate small wins.

When you take action and celebrate small victories, you basically decide to reward yourself for it, stepping stone that you wake in your way to reach your goals. What happens when you celebrate small ones if you celebrate small ones there are certain benefits :

Give confidence and motivation – It not always you feel the same and motivation with which you’ve started your journey. With obstacles and problems in your way seldom you feel disappointed, discouraged and confidence broken. But when you learn to gain small wins it becomes easy to for you to fire back with the same power and confidence for bigger goals. 

You get clarity & get focused – Yes ! we’re celebrating small wins you get clarity and get focused for your big goals when you start giving importance to small victories you can eventually start realising that you are  close to your goals. It helps you to stay more focus on reaching your destination. 

Remember your goal / passion – Make yourself think that why you have chosen your goal and what you are struggling for? By celebrating small wins, we recall ourselves of a reason why we have chosen those  big goals and with what intentions. 

Strengthen your psychology – When an individual celebrate something, certain Hormone release within the body and that person feel incredible. However celebrating not feel incredible physically but it also reinforce the behaviour you desire to show up when you faced challenges in your life. 

Read –Individuality and Mindset. Managing Mindset. .

A person who feels appreciated will always do more than what is expected. Your individuality is a blessing, not a burden. If you try to be like everyone else, your life will be no greater than theirs. By following the crowd you will become part of it and fails to stand out by travelling the same road as them.. you won’t get the chance to see anything different from what they see. 

You have to give yourself a pat on the back every now and then. You have done things some people said you couldn’t do. You’ve done things even you thought you couldn’t do. Be  proud of yourself. You have fought hard to get where you are today. Acknowledging this will bring contentment and raise your vibration. celebrate small every wins in life.

Don’t be self critical, appreciate yourself and others. Embrace the present

You can do better!

DISCLAIMER: This is my personal blog, the views and opinions expressed here represent my own and not those of people or organization that I may or may not be related with unless stated explicitly. The content is copyrighted solely to the caretaker of this website. Do not copy.

Struggles – Conquer and move on

Shivani Gupta
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Struggles – Conquer and move on

As human beings,

difficulties will constantly be knocking on our doors. Nothing is permanent. Look at this way, Sometimes things are good and sometimes life feels like you’ve been kicked in your mid- section. But it is important to develop a mindset of conqueror. A conqueror knows that no matter how hard life gets, he/she can be creative with the options that life puts on the table and still conquer. Struggles – Conquer and move on .

Struggles are unavoidable

This 2020 is unpredictable, 2020 is full of unpredictability. Starting with everything that is going around the global population. It’s like we are living in a mystery episode every month. Life was good until the beginning of March; it was 15 March, Sunday morning when I had to go to my parents house because of this lockdown. In the beginning it was easy for me to spend my whole day by helping my mother with house work. As time passed, it was difficult for me to spend my time. I used to spend my whole day wondering what to do next, when will things get normal, my job, my work and much more. My mind was not calm at all. 

Work in your style

Time passed slowly and things came to be understood. On 27th June I came to my place where I work, where I dream! Now I’m able to figure out what to do next in my life. This is new normal now for us for all for global population. All the readers out there, or whosoever is reading this struggles are unavoidable, all we need to change is our vision, our thoughts, our responsibility and our plan of action towards that struggle. Never lose hope. Time will pass. This time is new to us, new to all. Think and act is a new manner like never before! Work in a different style and act in a different style. Today I want to help you change your perception of your difficulties to see them as a possibilities. Below are some ways that might help in you in some manner- 

  • See your difficulties as possibilities to grow — Change has a tremendous benefits over our lives. We are alive. We are learning, growing and smarter now. Our difficulties will build us to become strong and a capable people. 
  • Prepare yourself mentally that nothing is permanent– Just as the good will not last forever, so the bad won’t. Some people do not like change , but it’s important to realize that changes have many benefits. You would not appreciate the good if you never went through bad. To conquer and move forward after each difficulty is to develop the mindset that nothing is permanent.
  • Don’t create victim mentality–  During this period I came to understand that when we create a victim mentality for our struggles it will delay us from receiving the blessings that are meant for us. With the result that, you’ll dwell in your situation long term while you could’ve been free. But because of your wrong mindset, you are stuck. Break free from it ! 

Difficulties  will knock on our doors time and time again. What we choose next is our responsibility. Teach yourself to see the good in everything! Decide today that you’re going to prepare to see your hardship as new possibilities, By breaking loose from a victim mentality and by accepting that nothing is permanent. 

Read Decision – making

See you soon with another blog! Till then work for your healthy mind and soul. Also you can help others to develop a healthy mindset.  

Read Right choices

You can do better.  

DISCLAIMER: This is my personal blog, the views and opinions expressed here represent my own and not those of people or organization that I may or may not be related with unless stated explicitly. The content is copyrighted solely to the caretaker of this website. Do not copy.

Beauty Standards

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Beauty Standards

Beauty! What is beauty means to you? Am I beautiful? 

Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder

Everyday we are  surrounded by the world’s perspective of beauty: 

Blue eyes, keratin treated hairs, slim, tall, hourglass figure, and what not Beautiful women comes in all different shapes and sizes. I’ve a sister and she’s GORGEOUS. Men love her and women wish to look like her, her smile looks awesome on her. The only problem is that she doesn’t see herself the way others see her. But isn’t that the problem? How we see ourselves is important! We never see ourselves the way people see us. Please read this blog till the end, and comment your thoughts here.

What makes you beautiful?

Beauty is the combination of all the standards of a person or thing that charm the sense and mind. We all are unique. No one looks same, but even then each one of us has different personalities and standards that are so unique, physically or mentally. If you’ve never been called beautiful that doesn’t means that you’re not beautiful at all. Beauty is something outstanding of its kind and we are all beautiful and we are all excellent. 

Social bullying.

People are also adopting few artificial treatment like surgery n all by which they can modify accordingly; coz they don’t like their facial features or any other body part, the way they born.  they wish something else, they wish to look like any other celebrity is looking, people are not satisfied 100 percent the way they look.  I don’t think so, you really need those treatments. You’re beautiful the way you are ladies and girls. However, the reality is, that we all need to be comfortable in our own skin.

I wish I could tell you how you should see yourself or how you should feel about yourself; All I can say is that whatever you decide to do, do it for yourself not for anybody else, Please! Don’t do anything for just to impress others. But only for you! Whether you want to lose weight, to go for hair removal or any other thing, it’s your decision, and it should be completely yours. Just be happy with who you are. Be comfortable in your body. Be confident.  “Nobody looks the same and no one is perfect. We all are beautiful in our own way. “

“True beauty is not how you look

But the confidence, comfort and security you’ve with yourself! “

Things to remember: 

  • Start loving your body and stop judging other people’s bodies- For you to learn to love your body first you need to stop judging other based on their bodies. When you criticize other- you send wrong message both to them and to yourself. Quit it. You deserve to be loved and accepted in your exact body. So does everyone else. 
  • Cleanse your social media feed of anything that makes you feel bad about your body- Take control of what images and messages you allow into your brain. It’s your job to make sure you filter those things and start being mindful and farseeing around yourself. Follow social media accounts that show bodies that look like you. 
  • Know your body. Do something that makes your body feel good every day. Make it a practice to do something good to yourself. Know your body, put a face mask, trim your hair or anything which makes you feel good. This is all about to train your brain to associate your brain with positive feelings. Make it a habit to shower love to your body and start to feel natural over time. 

Your body loves you, Love it back. 

Appreciate your physical beauty—- 

 It’s great to take care of yourself when it comes to physical appearance. We should always feel comfortable in our own skin and looking after our body is a healthy pattern, the fact that we have a body at all is incredible. whether you believe in god or not when the world was created it was not given rules to help humankind judge what physical beauty is? No these ideas were made by us and today often manipulated by the media. we are attacked by images showing people with properly attractive bodies.

We know that most of these images are not real, that they have been edited in order to sell an idea for a dream but we easily forget this and the quickly intensifier confidence issues. with nowadays media platforms playing on our insecurities, it is hard not to compare ourselves with others. anything that does not match the popular definition of beauty appears to eyes as a floor and makes us judgmental always assessing physical beauty against that benchmark. 

Know your body,

“Don’t let socially constructed ideas about beauty lower your self esteem, there are no rules to beauty accept and love yourself as you are embrace your flaws and get comfortable in your own skin,  wear your imperfections like they don’t need a season to be fashionable. “

“There is a culture of negativity swirling around the internet and even rebounding on those we claim to like. Constant comparison of one human against another drives you into a web of negative and loveless thought. “

The size of your waist does not define you

your skinetone doesn’t define you

That number on the scales does not define you

Those marks on your body don’t define you

Those assumptions don’t define you

Those judgements don’t define you

Concluding

Your personal beauty is not for everyone and that is fine it does not mean you are less beautiful than any other human being. Perfection is subjective and based completely on perception. Above all, Wear  your imperfections proudly because they make you unique. Never stop  appreciating  your own beauty. If you feel you would  rather be someone other than yourself you are not alone but if you can recognize and embrace your own unique beauty you can live with originality  and be happy of who you are. A person who accepts themselves as they are,  they are can inspire the world and that can be you. You could show the world how to reach Joy through self-acceptance. 

You can do better!

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Social bullying

Shivani Gupta
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Social bullying

Social bullying on social media

Bullying that happens on social media is just harmful as other bullying- now a days it’s getting worse. Getting bullied on social media or through text messages can feel really terrible. Being connected to your phone or computer all the time means that a bully can sneak into your life. A part from online social media bullying, people generally bully each other or people they hate by saying abusive words or statements in from of them, which is also not specified, by sending hurtful texts, messages, post or images or videos.

It can be by insulting, inappropriate sexual comments, threatening to cause harm; making rude or mean hand gestures. Bullying is not in between people of certain age groups, none than that this can be seen among teens or school going kids as well. Bullying can be physical, it can be verbal, social or cyber bullying. How many of you have experienced this before and what are your thoughts on this , tell me in comment section. let’s begin with the ways by which you can keep yourself safe from those people and toxicity.

A healthy mind does not speak ill of others.

There are things you can do to stop online bullying:

  • Take a break from your phone or computer– Take a break from social media
  • Report bullying where it happens – You can report online abuse on any social media platforms.
  • Tell an adult whom you trust – Talk with a parent, teacher or someone who can be supportive.
  • Don’t respond to threat messages– This can make bullying worse. 
  • Report serious threats to Police
  • Keep your personal details private – Don’t share your home address or phone no. On social media.
  • Block and Unfriend – Block any harassing account or email address. 
Teenage Boy Being Bullied At School, covered his face – group of students threatening to hit classmate or junior at university – Concept of teasing, bulling or warning at college campus

Online social bullying

Online bullying can hurt others and it can have serious consequences. Being bullied can make you feel alone, scared and hopeless. Some people have even committed suicide because they were harassed online and didn’t think it would ever stop. The internet is permanent . It is a part of our daily lives now. No work without internet. This is human tendency- its not complete until shared on social media , sharing is okay for me but not everything I think. Everything is not meant to be shared, Dance Videos are trending now a days, I don’t know what they want to show on the name of dance. but all they’re doing is what others are doing. This is what they called trend. Copying is the new trend I guess.

Beauty Standards.

Whatever you post , even if you delete it,  it can live forever. Assume anything you share online could be seen anywhere and by anybody no matter what kind of privacy settings you use. It’s also easy for people to save and take screenshots of pictures or videos you post online. So be careful before you share something on social media. Also you can see what kind of picture or content you’re going to share with people on social media. Watching your audience can also help you to not get bullied. 

You never look good trying to make someone else look bad

bullying is never ok .

But this will not help us out with this.  Why this social bullying happens?

Reasons behind bullying :

  • wanting to dominate others and improve their social status
  • having low self-esteem
  • having a lack of remorse or failing to recognize their behavior as a problem
  • feeling angry or frustrated
  • struggling socially
  • being the victim of bullying themselves 
  • Bad mental health 

Concluding

If you find anyone doing such activity anywhere whether it’s on social media or in person, don’t ever support such activity. Those words, stupid silly comments can hurt deep and can lead to bad mental health and sometimes even worse than that. In my previous blogs I’ve spoken about the importance of words in one’s life, I request you all, to be careful what you share on social sites and also help others if you find anyone bullying other on social media. Keep your mind healthy and full of positive and good words and always keep in mind not to speak bad or ill about others. Thank you for stopping by and supporting my content and the hard work behind creating such contents for you all. Keep reading. Keep loving.

It’s all about you

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20s – Young adult

Shivani Gupta
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20s – Young adult

Your 20s- young adult is the age when you try to figure out life and (hopefully) learn from your mistakes. Since ,I learned a lot and wanted to do more sometimes succeed sometimes failed to do. For many, it’s the first time they’re faced dealing with finances completely on their own. So here I’m going to share my own tips to avoid such mistakes to make your future better and also about financial security for the rest of your life. First I’m going to talk about setting and managing money related goals. 

Your money – 

Spending extra money than you make (Important for young adult)- 

  •  The tip is to live within your means , spending money beyond your means is not sustainable as you’ll soon see your expenses and bills piling up. Learn to be happy with what you have. 
  • Spend less and you will find financial freedom is much more empowering. Also don’t feel what others gonna think about your lifestyle and avoid what they are up to in their life. Not everyone is living good in their life. 
  • Do not feel cheap about yourself. Never. 

Start tracking your money young adult – 

  • Tracking your money gives you greater awareness of your spending patterns and what you are actually doing with your money.
  • How much you spend daily on your coffee . .burger and much more. You might realise that grabbing food out  along with happy hour drinks are adding up to extras than you can afford. So , track your weekly expenses. 
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Time Vs Money

Start setting financial goals young adult- 

  • constructing financial security doesn’t happen magically. It takes time and effort. 
  • If you don’t have plan, make some and come up with financial goals that will help you with your budget making abilities and gives you target to focus.
  • Setting financial aims will help you manage your wish lists come true- to buy new phone or computer and much more. 

Now, let’s talk about some other distractions which one should need to avoid to make their future better 

Your relationships are important young adult- 

  • Your relationship deserve to being alone in area of your life. look them all with respect, but make sure you prioritize the ones that feel like ends in themselves …the ones where you don’t have to tally a list of benefits to feel good about them. No job or invitation to a special party is worth sacrificing your peaceful mind
  • You don’t want to think about what people think of you all the time. You want to hang out with people who make you feel good who allow you to be yourself & accept you the way you are.
  • Whoever those people are in your life . . .they should be the only people in your life. . . no matter whether you work with them…live with them, work out with them, or see them once a month in a weekend.
  • Don’t turn yourself into a knot to get what you want. Find a way to get what you want your way and let the right people find you along the road
  • Try to be good at what you do. Be kind to the people around you. Help those who are in reach now Don’t get lost in abstract ideas, no matter how unrealistic they might be.
  • It’s great to have big desires, but it’s okay to first take care of yourself and those around you. Build a foundation, one you can depend on for years to come. Then, handle the big problems and take them down one day at a time. 

Relationship goals

Your health- 

  •  Maintain healthy relationship with Alcohol If you start drinking too much as a routine it can harm you in terms of long term health. 
  • Start taking mental health seriously. I think this age group needs proper guidance regarding mental health. What ever is bothering you, there is a solution to it. And it begins with you only if you seek treatment and you’re not ashamed of. 
  • Limit your screen time. this age group again spend hours a day on digital screens on social media and what not. And it’s messing with their sleep in a major way. Good sleep is required to focus on good. 
  • Watch what you eat. Make healthy eating habits like more Protein rich food, vitamins & fruits. Managing weight in 20s is another major task. 

Education and talent is not sufficient to become successful. High intelligence, natural talent, from reputed universities are all good things to have but they do not guarantee that you will have a great job and they mean nothing when not paired with true hard work.

Last some general tips I would like to share with you all young adult and those are

  • Be sure about your career. (wanted to share more on this but will ending up with some short simple tips) always choose your career, your profession on the basis of your likes and dislikes, don’t choose completely on the basis of your education, what you’ve studied. tho it’s important, so before choosing your career, choose your academics/ education wisely.
  • Think about part-time earnings, it will help you to face corporate exposure and also makes you feel good about yourself. You’ll feel free, independent and will learn to manage your expenses of your own.
  • You can plan a startup or any other small scale business or you can associate with some organizations to learn to earn, to make money according to your passion in your life. later on it can be a full time career option.
  • Explore, Travel. This is the age when energies are high and our brain need knowledge of – culture, people, food, amazing natural views and much more. So Travel- go for small trips with friends or travel solo to experience lil bit more.
  • It likely feel safe to stay close to family and friends, but it’s important to broaden your horizons while in your 20’s and that may mean making drastic move to new pace where you don’t know anyone. You’ll come to know about your experience later.
  • It’s natural to make mistakes or lessons from them makes us strong to develop and to learn.
  • Review your progress. review what went wrong and to understand your next move.

You can do better.

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